Ego, it drives everything

Learn about ego. Read Freud. Learn what motivates people. It'll help. A great, short book is "Ego is the Enemy".

The superego is good.

The superego is joyless and boring, but it's there for a reason.

"Our most primitive insticts keep asserting themselves in even the most civilized settings" Edward Albee

Commit to memory the 5 stages of Kubler-Ross

• Denial
• Anger
• Depression
• Bargaining
• Acceptance

This applies, btw, to not just losses but all kinds of situations. Memorizing this will help you and it will help you help others.